Tuesday, July 7, 2009

Snip, snip

Written by Annie

There comes a time when you either decide to have more children or you decide not to. We're at that crossroads at my house. Now, we aren't opposed to a larger family, but we feel very blessed with the two children we do have, and as selfish as it may be, I really don't want to be pregnant again. Top that factor off with the fact that I feel like we waited a tad too long for my spacing ideals, it was time to decide if we wanted to make it permanent.


My hubs has always been willing to do the big V, so we embarked on the urology journey last week to get the low down. After a brief, extremely detailed, stale old video, we met with the doc who explained "vas" procedures and protocol. I felt only slightly bad for my husband when he went into incision detail and talked about potential swelling and so on. Then I remembered I squeezed a child out of my vagina. Twice. And one of those kids was almost 9 pounds. That small incision didn't warrant such sympathy after such thought.

Then came the bad news. The news that warranted sympathy..........for me. The urologist said that to assure "clearness" hubs would have to have 15 to 20 umm...... "releases" before the first visit 6 weeks after the procedure. Then another 10 or so in the month after before submitting a second sample.

15 to 20? Let's do the math here. One week=no activity + One week=I'm out of commission due to a monthly visitor. That means 4 weeks or roughly 30 days to achieve 15 to 20 releases?!?!? Maybe another baby isn't such a bad idea! After all, it only takes once!

Still weighing the pros and cons,

Friday, July 3, 2009

We all need Neda

Written by Karen, a mom without a blog

There are so many images, so many sad, sad stories that daily come across the internet, are printed in our newspapers and are plastered all over our television newscasts, that we often become completely numb to it all. We may see something that will give us pause, but not even long enough to even qualify as an official “moment of silence” before we’re on to our next task.

It’s so difficult for me in the midst of my daily grind to focus on anything besides my own little self and my own little life – that to keep aware of what is going on in the rest of the world becomes almost another chore to add to my already addled brain.

Until something happens that cannot be ignored… a tsunami, a hurricane, a declaration of war. Something you cannot take your eyes off of or you can’t read enough about.

It’s akin to slowing down on the highway just long enough to marvel over the overturned car on the other side, grumble about how “everyone ALWAYS has to slow down to see the accident”, then speed up and back to reality – the tangled wreckage just a small side-note to your afternoon, soon to be forgotten altogether. That is precisely how we treat major calamitous events in our world. We stop, we take it in, we analyze our own feelings and those of others, we take stock of what we have and maybe hug are kids a little tighter that night, we try our best to empathize and maybe even try to help with a donation and definitely some heartfelt prayers… then we move on.

There’s nothing wrong with it, it’s how we can all keep on living without being buried under the burdens of the world.

But there are times when something happens, some symbol of an event that just stands out among all the rest. The one that makes you truly take stock of where we’re at and it actually CHANGES us. It may be a very subtle change or in may even be just that a SEED is planted that will eventually push us past our own lives to contemplate what is happening and how it could and should effect us.

Last night, I had just that moment of that tiny seed being planted. An image of a solitary woman. A woman no one knew save for her family and friends… until a few days ago. She was a young woman in the prime of life who was shot down in the midst of a demonstration in Iran. Now, tragically, in death, she is known by the entire world. I read about it when it happened, but yesterday I looked at her pictures – her reality was too intense to let fade in my mind.

This is Neda Agha-Soltan.


Her pictures and the video of her tragic death are easily found on the web. After seeing her pictures last night, I wanted to see the video. I felt like I owed it to her as a human being on this planet of ours. I had to give her horrific death more than a moment in my life. There is nothing more real than that video folks. This is a young, 26 year old, who believed the protests were justified and was standing by, not throwing anything or threatening anyone and she was shot by what is believed to be pro-government militia.

As you all may know, news from the area is sparse and regulated by the government. Foreign journalists have been barred from the streets and most of the pictures and video getting out of Iran are from the people.

The people.

It’s the people that make a country what it is – the government is supposed to represent ALL of the people. If nothing else, this disputed election shows that the people of Iran want FREEDOM, Iranian women want FREEDOM. Many Islamic clerics have been protesting along with the people! Watching these clerics march hand in hand with young Iranians – wow! That was a wonderful image - they also believe strongly in human rights – enough to put themselves in harms way as well.

In this week leading up to America’s Independence Day celebrations, I want to attach more meaning to what “independence” means and how grateful I am for all who fought and stood up to give that to me. Could I EVER be brave enough to do what these protesters are doing? Could I ever stand up and purposefully put myself in that volatile position, in full knowledge of what I’m up against, in full knowledge that weapons are being used against unarmed people, in full knowledge that retribution could be harsh, even possibly deadly? I’d like to think I could, for the sake of my children and the young people of my nation… but I have serious, serious doubts.

I thank God that our government in America allows for all people to believe, practice and proclaim their faiths, beliefs, opinions and convictions. We see playing out before us in Iran, the danger of trying to rule under one belief. No government should ever try to restrict its patrons to one set of opinions. Lets try to make a symbol like Neda real. Let her help us make room in our hearts for EVERYONE – lets try to EMBRACE our differences, rather than brush aside those who don’t believe what we do.

As far as how Neda effects us and our little lives…. Well I guess that is up to each and every one of us. The video of her death is seared into my brain, and as terrible as it is, I want it to stay there. I don’t want to forget her and what she is now becoming a symbol for. Her name “Neda” means “divine calling” in Persian and “the call” in Farsi.

If we take more than a moment and plant the seed of acceptance inside, then the horrific events of June 20th, the day Neda was taken from this earth, will turn evil to good. She will not have died in vain.


Tuesday, June 30, 2009

Mommies Gone Wild in Sin City!

Yes, peeps, I am posting remotely while in the middle of a couple night getaway to Las Vegas with seven girlfriends (including MWOB Amy) SANS kids! Summer is in full swing in my world which generally means I am seriously slacking in the blogging category while seriously groovin' in the vacation/getaway category.

My duties as MWOB's Editor-In-Chief are being buried by a flurry of packing and unpacking as I just got home from a week away at a horse ranch with my in-laws last week and then I turned around for this chick getaway and a couple days after I return from Vegas, my dude and I and our kids are heading off for a week for our own family getaway!

So....this is summer and this is one of the many reasons summer is my season.

So here I sit ALONE in our hotel suite as the rest of the mommies are sitting having coffee downstairs, and I just had to pop on the computer and post some thoughts from Vegas.

Last night we had the most awesome dinner thanks to Nancy over at Fear and Parenting in Las Vegas. While sitting at the pool and hearing my friends had already made dinner reservations at some whatever hotel restaurant, I emailed Nancy, local hip mama extraordinaire, asking. "Where we should go?" She recommended the PERFECT place where we all indulged in Spanish Tapas, drank sangria and other yummy concoctions, and talked and laughed until our sides hurt.

This is a perfect example of why blogging rules. I emailed someone I have never met and barely know save a few email interchanges, and she totally and utterly comes through in basically being responsible for creating a seriously happy memory for me and this crew.

Vegas has been a playground for me for many years starting in elementary school when I would come with my Phoenix soccer team and play tournaments here in the late 70's. In college, it was a perfect getaway from USC where many an all-nighter was pulled. My escape into Vegas oblivion grew in my 20's with many trips here to see either the Grateful Dead or Phish play and I watched many a desert sunset from the stadium stands as the music played. As adults and even parents, my dude and I have planned a few trips here to melt into the anymonity that is cruising down the Strip and to harken back to a time when responsibilities were few.

Vegas has changed a lot from 1979 to 2009 but my need for it remains. A place to lose yourself just a little bit and in the losing, some other kind of finding happens.

After dinner, our group of mommies gone wild buzzed on a variety of alcoholic beverages rambled through endless casinos in search of the perfect cheesy lounge act. Maybe because it's summer, maybe because it was a Monday night, maybe because we were mommies in need of dancing together on a tiny lounge dance floor....we never found the perfect cheesy Vegas lounge act. But we did find tons of deep full laughter from the belly which is all this mama really needs.

I kinda love Vegas. And I need a little Vegas in my soul from time to time. Always have. And I think I always will.



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Although MWOB is in serious summer mode, we will have a new post up tomorrow from mom without a blog, Karen. It's an important one, a poignant one as we head into our beloved Independence Day holiday. Try to check it out.

Happy Summer.

Saturday, June 27, 2009

Happy Birthday to Nie Nie!

Written by Lee

If you don't know Nie Nie, you should. I wrote about her here and if you go read that post, it'll give you some insight into the relationship I've had with this woman and mom I've never met named Stephanie Nielson, aka Nie Nie. Well, today is Stephanie's 28th Birthday. A birthday she came dangerously close to not having. And her story of almost not having a 28th birthday is about as miraculous and inspiring and heartbreaking as they come.

Nie is a mom and woman who exudes a lightness and grace and beauty in her very existence. Many of her posts have humbled me to tears as I sit in admiration of her strength and faith and sheer will to live. I have learned much from reading her words and witnessing her courage. And often after reading her, I will return to my mothering role with renewed vigor and commitment.
And God knows, I need that renewal every single day.

So in honor of Nie's birthday, there are a couple of fabulous Nie-like events going on that I just had to share. One you can only benefit from if you live in Provo and I wonder if there is even one MWOB reader that lives in Provo. Maybe Karen of MWOB could drive on over from Salt Lake City to partake in the Provo Benefit....


You just might want to click on over to the Sweet Tooth Fairy in any event because geez, that is one mouth-watering site. So for all of us other non-Provo peeps who want to honor Nie Nie, we can cruise on over to another delectable site called Conversations with a Cupcake where you will see this little yummy creature....


....and you can get all the details on how to indulge in Nie Nie's love for yummy sweet things while also supporting a very worthwhile cause of the Arizona Burn Center (responsible for literally saving Nie's life) and the Nie Recovery Fund (responsible for aiding in the ongoing expensive recovery of Nie).

So on this sunny summer afternoon, if you're feeling grateful and generous and hungry for sweets, head on over and wish Nie, an exceptional woman, an exceptional birthday!


Happy 28th Birthday Nie Nie!


 
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